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I always enjoy the weekly TMI Tuesday questions when they allow my imagination to run wild. This week we sneak in the back door, so to speak … and look at the adventurous side of getting busy. In case you hadn’t noticed, sex does happen to be one of my favourite subjects to blog about.
a. I love it.
b. I enjoy it.
c. I’m ok with it.
d. I don’t really enjoy it.
e. I don’t enjoy it at all.
f. I have never given anal sex.
g. I have never given anal sex, but would like to.
In my relationship with my husband, the idea of me giving anal sex is a bit of a stretch, although not impossible. From my perspective, I would say I’m c), from my husband’s perspective it is a somewhat rare occurrence in our usual sexual antics. I could count on one hand the number of times … although, the last time I was on the giving end, I used a nice little vibrator that sends these delicious tingles right through you; definitely a wonderful sensation as I took his rock-hard erection into my mouth.
a) I love it.
b) I enjoy it.
c) I’m ok with it.
d) I don’t enjoy it at all.
e) I have never received anal sex.
f) I have never received anal sex, but would like to start.
Somewhere in between b) and c) … anal sex is something that I have to be in the mood for – when it comes to penetration. I find the experience something that I really need to focus on relaxing for so that I can enjoy the sensation … and always lots of lube. However, I love anal play being included as part of sex through the use of a small dildo or vibrator. Only when those are too far out of reach will I resort to the good ol’ fashioned finger. The sensation is incredible and helps push my imagination into some very naughty places. I have never made it a secret that one of my biggest sexual fantasies is to have two hard men treat every opening in my body with orgasmic enthusiasm.
a) It’s a turn on for me.
b) It turns me on a little bit.
c) I like it, but only because it gets him/her going.
d) It does nothing for me.
e) I don’t like doing it because I am shy.
f) I don’t like doing it because I think it’s immoral/improper.
Hmm…a tough question to answer, because I can’t say that the “undressing” is specifically a turn on, but rather the result of being turned on. The one thing to keep in mind is that there are millions of men out there that have already seen me naked, thanks to my website … so, by the time I actually draw someone into my sex life, I’ve long gotten past any sense of reluctance to reveal myself.
Although, I do need to point out that as I have gotten older and sexually wiser, I have certainly become a lot more comfortable with my body image. Few of us – if any – are perfect. It just takes a bit of maturity to allow that to sink in and recognize flaws can be sexy because they make us unique.
a) Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time).
b) Yes, on most occasions (70-89% of the time).
c) Yes, on some occasions (40-69% of the time).
d) Yes, on a few occasions (10-39% of the time).
e) Yes, but only on special occasions (1-9% of the time).
f) Never, not even when I am really turned on.
I would have to say a) best describes me. I find it very difficult to be completely quiet when it comes to sex. Having said that, I’m also not the type that the neighbours will complain about or giggle when they see me in the yard. I do think that it is important to express the pleasure your lover is giving you, otherwise how will they ever know they are hitting the right spots.
a) Talking dirty is one of our favorite activities.
b) Occasionally, I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease.
c) I talk dirty with my partner, but it feels awkward.
d) I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but I don’t dare for fear of being judged.
e) I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but she/he isn’t into it.
f) I don’t talk in such a way because I think it is inappropriate.
g) I don’t talk in such a way because I can’t bring myself to do it.
Definitely b). When it comes to our sex life, depending on the intimacy of the moment, we will take our imaginations into some very erotic places with a little dirty talk. The mind is the best sex toy around, and when played with properly, it can make for some seriously hot sex.
a) quiet little mouse
b) low moaning wolf
c) screeching beluga whale
Most of the time, I would say that I fall somewhere in between a) and b) … in my reality, I have two young children at home and to make like an air raid siren would just not be appropriate. However, there are times when privacy is much more available, and I can really let myself go.
Comfort seekers value deep intimacy, quiet engagement and trust over time of familiar relationships. For them sex is best as a safe, loving nurturing space. Thrill seekers value wild energy, adventure and novelty; they are willing to try open relationships, testing themselves outside average sexual practices. These folks crave a place to push the boundaries of new experiences.*
Oh wow … um … almost impossible to pick, but I am going to lean towards comfort sex because it is more indicative of the intimate relationship I share with my husband. Our marriage is about that connection on a very deep and nurturing level, and it is the foundation of who we are as a couple. But, as you have been reading, the past few years have been about pushing the sexual envelope and exploring new thrills. This is an equally important experience because we have found the connection in our marriage that allows us to explore outside the traditional boundaries.