Monthly Archives: November 2012
Like a few other updates that have happened over the past few days, this one has its roots in a previous blog that I wrote on a different site. I think it’s still kind of fun and covers off a whole whack of “too much information” about me.
I thought this might be something light and fun for a Friday. You have probably seen a few of these “random facts” blogs, so I hope it’s not too boring. If nothing else, if it spurs you to ponder any curious questions about me, please send them my way. I am always looking for new ways to involve you in my blog, and also to write about ideas, topics and interests that appeal to you. Otherwise you are just stuck inside my own head – and that can be a dangerous place to find yourself on the best of days!
1) Single, Taken, or Crushing?
Married, quite happily! But occasionally playful in the right moments!
2) Are you happy with where you are?
Extremely, except for financially, but isn’t that the case with most people?
3) When you meet the right person, do you fall fast?
No, I tend to be a bit more coy and cautious.
4) Have you ever had your heart broken?
Yes … and more than once.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is ok?
No, but with good communication and a mutual adventurous spirit, why cheat on your partner when you can explore together! 😉
6) Would you ever take someone back if they cheated on you?
No. I would struggle to regain the trust and I think that would prevent the relationship from healing.
7) Have you talked about marriage with another person?
Several times … but I am married after all.
8) Do you want children?
I already have two. Now we’re trying to adopt a dog.
9) How many?
The two I already have. Unless you meant the dog, then we will just stick with the one.
10) Would you consider adoption?
Yes. Especially of the dog.
11) If somebody liked you right now, what do you think is a cool way to let you know?
Be straightforward, talking is always a good thing. As I get older, the more I recognize that “games” can quickly get off track. If you want an adult relationship, start out by being an adult. Save the games for between the sheets when everyone is horny and naked.
12) Do you enjoy playing hard to get?
Am I hard to get? Hmmm … I really prefer to play getting it hard.
13) Be honest, do you play the “game” when you are dating?
Completely. But most of my dates are with my husband, so it’s very safe to play the “game.” Fun, even. Especially when he is creative with the plans for the night!
14) Do you believe love at first sight exists?
15) Are you romantic?
16) Do you believe that you can change someone?
I believe you can … but more times than not, I have seen it for the worse and not the better.
17) If you could get married anywhere, money not an object where would it be?
In some incredible European castle.
18) Do you have feelings for someone right now?
Yes. Some of them are even good.
19) Have you ever wished you could’ve had someone but you couldn’t?
20) Have you ever broken a heart?
Honestly, I don’t know.
21) Would you ever fight somebody over your significant other?
You wanna piece of me? But quite honestly, our relationship is such a way that I would rather just hold the camera and watch intently.
22) What would you say about your last ex?
Where’s a speeding bus when you need one?
23) Favorite sex position?
Well, seriously … do I need to pick just one? Anytime I’m getting some is a favourite position. But if I really need to pick just one, I’ll say doggy style ’cause it feels so good and deep.
24) What turns you on the most?
The first thing I notice about a man that I have just met would be his hands. Then his smile. On a deeper note, I get turned on by a guy who can make me laugh, smile and appreciates my twisted sense of humour. Finally, if he gets the chance to bed me … those hands better live up to all the expectations in my imagination! 😉
25) Does size matter?
Sorry, but yes. But maybe not quite like what many guys think. Truth is, while I have never been with a guy like this, but too big can be a bad thing. You want something that fits, feels good. But having said that, no matter what, the guy needs to know how to use what he has.
26) Most times in one day?
27) Most orgasms in one session?
I’m usually good for two, but then after that things tend to get a little numb as I am one of those women that needs a little extra help getting there.
27) What do you think about during sex?
Depends on the sex and the partner. Mostly I think about the sensations I’m feeling at the moment, and perhaps the events that led up to getting into that position. Rarely does my own mind wander away from what is really going on.
28) Ever had a threesome?
No, but I have had a foursome with my husband and another couple. That said, a MFM encounter is very high on my list of desires – and something I am working actively on achieving.
29) How often do you masturbate?
Four to five times per week if I’m getting regular sex that week. But like everyone else, some weeks the motivation just isn’t there, and others the motivation is really there!
30) Do you like oral?
Yes, I’ve been told it’s one of my better bedroom skills by more than one guy … and girl. In fact, I’ve blogged at length about it …
Anyway, hope you enjoy this little tongue and cheek bit of TMI for this week.
Some time ago, I wrote about how the laws had changed where I live regarding work visas for exotic dancers. The government clamped down on granting such visas to foreign women who come to Canada to earn a living as a stripper. The strip club owners, in turn, made a big splash about how this would limit the number of available dancers for their stages, and how they would now be forced to recruit young college-age women to fill the need.
On and off, the conversation around this has continued among some of my coworkers – surfacing recently when one went off on a rant about how her husband joined his friends for a few drinks at one. That rant is best saved for another day, but regardless, I always enjoy when these topics begin swirling around because I can occasionally shock the shit out of people by chiming in with an opinion they surely didn’t expect.
Well, you have to amuse yourself somehow …
All of this reminded me of an article I read a couple years ago about how in this economic struggle we are in, some women are turning to exotic dancing and adult entertainment as a way to make ends meet. The lure of a potential annual income of $100,000 to $300,000 annually in some of the premier men’s clubs – even in tough times – appears to be too much to resist.
I think I also shared way back then about how, given the right opportunity, blend of alcohol and distance from my home, I might be encouraged to get up for an amateur night. Now, far from being judgmental about it, I did find it interesting to read because it is something that tells what I see as a bigger reality out there. If you consider that this current recession is the first one to occur at a time when women are truly independent. Even some 20 years ago – when I was but a wee girl – the mentality wasn’t nearly as accepting. Not that I would suggest it has changed dramatically, because I am certain that many of these ladies are still facing the scorn of a drunken crowd … and a few angry wives.
But it is intriguing because, at a moment in time when the idea of “amateur” holds a particular appeal, here are housewives, bank tellers and former corporate types, doffing their panties on stage and shaking what Momma gave them.
The article said clubs, adult magazines and porn producers are seeing an influx of applications from women who have college educations and were previously well employed. Some have even used their past as part of their onstage personas to underscore the changes … and appeal to that certain fetish about seeing the boss in her business suit strip down.
I know it works for me when I get all dressed up in professional attire and reveal teasing glimpses of naughtiness under my hemline. And I love how my Office Guys react when I put on my best suit for work.
I suppose for some, the idea may seem somewhat desperate. But given that all of us – men and women – get naked at least once a day for free, is it so bad to try to make the best of the moment and benefit financially? I’m not sure I have an answer, but I can see the appeal … just from my own experience I have noticed that more and more of the guys I have talked to like the idea of “amateur” over “professional.” There’s just something more erotic about seeing the “real girl next door” naked than the one’s airbrushed and pretending they could live on your street.
For me this one is a bit of a personal debate as I ponder what will come next for my hairstyle … although I have never thought of going blonde … I found this little interesting argument online at a “mail order bride” site (don’t ask).
“Since time immemorial, poets, writers, journalists, social scientists, talk show hosts, you name them, have struggled and fought to answer the question that burns in men’s minds: Which shade of woman is preferred and why…blondes or brunettes? Are blondes better lovers? Are brunettes better suited in the boardroom? Can blondes be trusted? Is a brunette a better mate?
Blonde hair is unique in that it typically darkens with age. So a blonde woman gives the impression of being younger, more able to procreate. Theory has it that men have subconsciously developed an attraction to mate with women who appear younger, thus increasing the chances of having children. In northern climes, where survival of the species is paramount, one school of thought believes blondes developed genetically in order to attract more males and therefore increase the odds of maintaining the species.
Lighter eyes are a more desired trait as interest, such as in a male, is more easily seen in the pupil dilation (the signal of interest) of a blue-eyed women versus those of a dark-eyed one.
As early as the 14th century women were dying their hair lighter in order to look younger and become, they believed, more attractive. This is true in many traditionally dark haired areas of the world, for example Latin America, where a lighter haired and skinned woman is more highly prized than her brunette counterpart…so they say.
However, studies have shown that corporate entities seem to favour brunettes as managers and executives as illustrated by the size of their paycheck over those of blondes. Another study espoused that brunettes are preferred by men as mates and are more trustworthy and loyal. If you want to have fun, go with a blonde. But marry a brunette…”
So … brunette or blonde … maybe I might find a good wig for a photo set or two!
Kind of a treat for you guys … tons of reading material today; with me playing catch-up on some of my TMI Tuesday updates. Of course, I know a lot of you are here strictly for the words – and the photo updates on Miniskirt Monday and Topless Tuesday have absolutely nothing to do with our time spent together!
Either way, I remain hopeful that you find something to enjoy in all of this silliness that has consumed me for the past couple years.
This TMI Tuesday was rather thought-provoking for me; not so much for the answers that I have to regretfully confess, but the fantasies that could be had if the opportunities were really there. The theme is built around fame and sex. Although, I have it on good advice that being famous does not necessarily make you good in bed … nor does being anonymous.
But, unless you are a Kardashian, you probably aren’t looking to become famous just for sex … and supposedly “leaked” sex videos of you fawning your way through some poorly “scripted” random sex scene with a D-List almost celebrity.
Anyway, on to the answers you seek about lil’ ol’ me and my somewhat publicly anonymous sex life …
Have you ever had sex with someone famous or who later became famous, if only locally?
Well, two thoughts on this … and forgive the vanity for a moment.
My husband, who shall remain nameless, previously held a rather public job that required him to be known on an international level. He also has a pretty solid background in the “local” entertainment industry. But is he famous? Not even close.
Then there is me, anonymous offline, but have a respectable following online gained from 10 years of being a Southern Charm. I’m not saying this make me “famous” in the Hollywood sense, but I can say there are hundreds of thousands of men (and women) that know my online personality quite well.
In the spirit of Six Degrees of Separation, have you had sex with someone who had sex with someone who … someone famous?
Not that I know of … my last boyfriend might be lucky enough to have sex with something out of the agricultural community, but famous? I doubt that. My husband has never indicated if he actually has … and to be honest, I’ve never pressed him for any information on it.
In the opposite direction, have you had sex with someone whose name you didn’t know?
No … I’m not that wild and crazy enough to hop into the sack with someone who I don’t have some sort of emotional connection to.
Someone whose name you knew then but have forgotten?
No … but my list of sex partners is short enough that my memory is not challenged that way.
Someone who you suspect may have forgotten you?
I doubt it … because I am just that damned good! LOL
No, as I said, my offline life has been somewhat vanilla up until the past few years. The people I have been sexually connected to are likely to remember because those moments were monogamous relationships of reasonable length. In other words, no one-night stands for me.
BONUS: Someone you wish you could forget?
See the first part of my answer to question 2. Truth be told, it’s not that I want to forget someone, I just wish the relationship had been different. I was too anxious to give up my virginity and probably like so many other women, would have waited for a different time to have sex for the first time than I did if I had known at the time.
The following questions were part of last week’s TMI Tuesday, but through a variety of reasons, I was just not able to get to them on time. Having had the chance to revisit the questions, I have put together some of my thoughts. I don’t mind saying that the past few weeks, with a Movember theme, has been a very good creative challenge – and has opened the doors to some good conversations that may not have been high on the list of things I need to know!
1. When was the last time you or your loved one had their prostate checked?
For hubby, that would be last year. However, other medical situations have brought him into semi-regular contact and examination by his doctor, so I’m sure the red flag will pop up on his chart shortly.
2. Besides a medical professional, how many other people have had their finger up your ass?
I really had to think on this one. I’m going to say three, but one of the three is me – and the other two were for purely sexual reasons.
3. Have you ever given or received a prostate massage? Did you like it? Did you cum or orgasm?
That would be a “no” followed by another “no.” My husband – whom I have been with for over 20 years – is not a man who is interested in being the receiver when it comes to anal play.
4. Do you enjoy anal play – rimming, fingering, penetration, etc.?
While it has taken me a long time to become comfortable with it, I totally love anal play now. We haven’t actually had anal sex in quite some time, but have introduced a few different toys to the mix – and good lord, it feels friggin’ incredible.
5. Ever had anal sex?
a) No, and I don’t want to.
b) No, but I am dying to try it.
c) Yes, but it is just okay.
d) Yes, love it…can’t get enough of it.
e) That’s the way I like it. Anal sex is the best sex.
I’m going to say I am slightly past c) on this question, but not all the way to d). While it has been a long time since I had a man’s dick in the back door, I love what we have introduced to our sex life. My husband has found a couple different toys that enhance the experience – and contribute to the overall mind-fuck around the idea of having two men penetrate me at the same time.
6. You are about to have anal sex, which method would you choose (You must choose one):
a) Finger up the ass
b) Prostate stimulator/massager
c) Penis–real or strap-on
I don’t really consider a finger up the ass as actual anal sex. To me that is really just a semi-regular part of our sex life anyway. These days, I prefer a sex toy that my husband bought for me; it is perfect for adding the right amount of feeling without stretching me to the point of discomfort. However, I don’t mind the idea of having a nice hard penis slipping into the backdoor, given the right amount of lubrication and foreplay. But, truth be told, right now I find the mind-fuck around the idea of a DP while I have a nice hard penis inside my vagina and my delicious toy buried in my ass to be the perfect combination.