Monthly Archives: March 2011
Happy Hump Day everyone! I know some of you have been taking a little more personal interest in me and my life away from the website and blog, so wish me luck. The exam I was supposed to write last week is scheduled for tonight. Thanks to Mother Nature, we got an extra week of study time.
I’ve been packing so much of my spare time into all of this school crap that I kind of forgot how much of a good distraction the Internet can be. I managed to slip on for a few minutes last night and catch up with some friends and fans.
I was telling them how much I never wanted to have to go through this regulation process for my job again, and the conversation just kind of went from there. We started going on about the things we would do again, and the things we would not … and so, I have kind of pilfered today’s mindless drivel from that. Hope you don’t mind.
What is the wild and crazy thing that you have done that you will not do again?
Oh, that’s a good question. At this stage, I’m not sure. There are a few things that come to mind … but I have always tried to live by the mantra “Never say never.”
And there are many things that I can say I wish I had thought through a lot better before I tried them. I’m not sure if those things qualify as true regrets, but some things could have been approached a bit more carefully, considerately and privately.
I don’t have any regrets about my website, but if I could do it all again, I would definitely keep it more private in my real life than letting some people in on it. I’ve never aspired to being a mainstream ‘porn star’ – am glad I’m not – but you would think I am given how some relatives have carried on. I could have done without having nosy cousins try to stir up family bullshit and gossip. They found out through someone else that I figured I could trust explicitly … Sure, they may have found out anyway – and I certainly don’t need their approval – but it might have softened the idea for my parents.
The other easy one that comes to mind is something I hinted at in a previous blog. And it’s not even that significant, but a different decision may have turned out better. If you recall the story about when I was at a conference with my coworker and we started fooling around – the wild and crazy thing I will not do again is drink so much that I am not able to finish my evenings without confirming my curiosities. I really do regret that we ended that experience without knowing what the next steps could have been.
I bet you guys were expecting me to say stuff about sexual experiences that I’ve had …
I think there might be only one thing I could say in that category, and it’s not so much the experience as it was the people involved. Great couple, great experiment … want to try more of the fantasy, just with people that bring more of the sexual chemistry to the moment.
And for my sexual expedition, I think that is really the foundation. I do want to try new things, I am willing to be a little wilder and crazier – as long as there’s no pain involved and no one gets hurt (emotionally or physically). But in my own mind, I don’t think that any of where I have been ranks particularly high on the “wild and crazy” list.
So, truth be told, there is nothing between the sheets I would take back, and there’s nothing wild and crazy I have done already that I don’t want to try again. Some things rank as “won’t be sad if I don’t again” while others rank pretty high on my list of “must try again.” But that might be best left for another blog!
Long before I met my husband I did some actual modelling. I worked with a couple different photographers at the time – one of whom won an international award with a photo he took of me. I learned a great deal in those days about how to work with the camera and the photographer – because those are two very different things, believe it or not.
I know some people who get very nervous once a camera shows up, and so it does take a bit of time to learn to be relaxed and forget as much as you can that someone is taking pictures.
|Posture & Angles|
The biggest tip I can pass along from these early days to anyone who has to be in front of the lens is know your facial angles. For me, now that I am no longer a teenager, is how to keep my chin at a flattering angle to prevent the appearance of the dreaded ‘double chin.’ And trust me, even if you are a ‘perfect weight’ stunning woman, the way the neck flows into the jaw line will create a double chin regardless. It’s the way we are built. Even those size-0 underwear models.
When I get a little absorbed in a photo session – because let‘s be honest, it‘s not a typical thing to be standing around in your living room on a Tuesday afternoon dropping your knickers – my photographer will occasionally remind me to lift my chin. He knows that the better I look in the photos, the better results for you guys, and the better I feel about it from all points of view.
If you have to remind your lady as you take the photos, don’t sugar-coat it – BUT don’t say “lift your chin cause you got two chins.” Trust me on this; say that and you won’t even be taking family vacation snapshots at Disney World. My photographer just says, simply “Chin up” and keeps shooting … same with the “Suck it in” for these days as I’m not in the same shape I was back a couple years ago. But that’s changing 😉
And give direction to her. Tell her when a pose isn’t working, and compliment the crap out of her when they are. Someone I know personally that owns a very good digital camera sometimes forgets about these tips – so make sure you remind her to ask you how she is doing as the session progresses.
Which brings up a good point here. No one is perfect, and no home photo shoot will ever match those Playboy sets you like so much. Unless you’ve got several thousands to drop on a stylist, props/backdrops, lighting (more on lighting coming up). Having said that, it pays to look at magazines like that – together – to find poses that you like and then can try to mimic in your own session.
A couple other tips about angles:
- Don’t have her stand square to the camera. Turning the hips and shoulders will make a person seem slimmer and create more flattering lines.
- Remind her to keep breathing naturally.
- Get her to use a variety of facial expressions and don’t always look at the camera.
- Have her use her arms – hands on hips, breasts, above her head – instead of just hanging down on the sides.
- For great cleavage, have her: lean forward; bring arms together at the waist and clasp her hands together at the waist, keeping her arms straight at the elbows; or cross her arms.
Where I work, we often have a good chuckle at lunch about the “advice column” in one of the local newspapers. Most of the time, something cheap and tawdry is going on with someone and someone else is writing in begging for insight.
Today we had a really good giggle over one written by a husband. His wife had recently developed a close friendly relationship with a gay man, who had been previously married to a woman and had children with her. The wife’s friendship had intensified after the pair of them started going to the gym. They have a habit of going for very long lunches together (four hours), and she will not shed any light on the subject for her husband.
The part that got us talking was that the husband believes there is no sex going on between his wife and this gay friend.
I’m still laughing.
The reality here is that this new “friend” was “formerly heterosexual.” He admitted to the wife that sex with women wasn’t “any better” than what he is having now … which means it might not have been “any worse.” He now has male friends that he enjoys. Um … can anyone see how this plays into the wife’s fantasy? A new male friend that knows what sex with a woman is like, that can bring a male friend along for “lunch.” The perfect sexual storm – no commitments, no fear of emotional baggage and the perfect “beard” in someone she can defend with “Oh, come on dear, he’s gay!”
Surely the husband can’t be that naïve to miss how his wife is living her “double fantasy” with this situation?
The advice columnist’s answer was equally laughable: the husband needs to ask the wife in a non-confrontational or accusatory manner what this new relationship provides her that their marriage does not.
She’s got this double life going – a “stable, socially acceptable” marriage and life in the suburbs, while downtown she’s getting it everywhere she wants it – and a cardio workout to boot!
Now then, for me personally, the idea of two men is a delicious fantasy that I hope to someday make a reality. BUT I’m not a woman who wants that fantasy to include watching the two guys together. Call me narrow-minded when it comes to the concept of male bisexuality, but I am totally with you guys on the reality that a double standard exists: girl-girl is acceptable, enjoyable and I have more than participated in it; guy-guy remains somewhat awkward in my mind. I don’t know why, even though I have gay male friends (not like this woman though). If I get the chance to fulfill my own fantasy, the pleasure must be all mine … I’m greedy that way.
I’m thinking this woman has shrewdly managed to have her cupcakes and lick all the extra icing too … and now I’m thinking I’m jealous. What do you guys think?
Hey guys, well not sure about where you are, but here we’re in the midst of a season change and pretty much everyone is desperate for some warmer weather. Late spring and early summer is really my time of year. I love the warmer weather, which means getting to show off a bit more style and fashion – without the humid summer making you sweat when you’re not doing anything worth getting all sweaty over.
So, as I was spending time this morning doing things I really shouldn’t have been doing, I copped out a bit on blogging some totally original thoughts and found some of interesting fashion advice I would throw your way to help get the girl of your dreams into some sexy outfits once the parka has been shelved. Not to mention, my Miniskirt Monday photo asks about “office distractions” and rumour has it, it’s something I’m very good at.
And just to make it interesting, I added my own little thoughts – not that I’m a fashion icon or anything like that. But I sometimes find some of this stuff is totally not for the average, everyday kind of person: five-inch heels might look great when they’re pointed to the ceiling, but you get a whole different look when you wear them for lunch with the CEO!
Six Items Every Woman Should Have
“While we can’t enough of shopping the hottest new trends of the season, we also know the importance of having a handful of wardrobe staples that are always in style—regardless of the season or the decade. Here are six items no closet should be without:”
1. Dark-Wash Denim
Finding the perfect pair of dark-wash jeans is like finding fashion nirvana! Not just easy-to-wear, they can also be dressed up or down, making them one of the most versatile items in your wardrobe repertoire. Don’t know whether to go for the skinny jean look or the wide-legged flairs of the moment? Either style works, but curvy figures find the best fit in boot-cut or wide-leg trousers, while slimmer frames feel their best in straight-legged or skinny jeans.
ANDEE SAYS: Why limit yourself to just one pair? Go for something in each style, plus right now guys, women are loving the knee-high boots so get her into some skinny jeans and take her boot shopping.
|The Mandatory LBD|
2. The Little Black Dress
Ever since Audrey Hepburn donned a sleek black dress for the iconic Breakfast at Tiffany’s look, the LBD has been hailed as the epitome of timeless style. A flattering black frock is not only appropriate for almost any occasion, it’s oh-so easy to throw on and look fabulous—instantly!
ANDEE SAYS: No self-respecting woman would be without one. I love mine … LOVE! Here’s a tip for an incredible weekend night of sex; suck it up and go dress shopping with her. Have her try on tons of great dresses. You get to see her looking gorgeous all day, she feels like you notice … incredible electricity when the lights go down!
3. Nude High Heels
You already know that sky-high heels can do wonders for making a more svelte-looking you, but flesh-colored pumps are serious slimming miracle-workers. The neutral color is not only easy to match with just about anything, but also it creates the illusion of long legs by showcasing one continuous line all the way down to your toes. Keep a pair of nude pumps in your closet to ensure you’ll have the skinny on effortless, flattering style whenever you need it most.
ANDEE SAYS: Never been a fan of the “nude” colour in shoes. I asked a couple of high-heels loving experts I know (down boys, down) and their advice is funky, black stilettos … naturally. That said, I get more comments on my leopard print heels than most others. Maybe shoes might be the true opportunity to take some risks?
|The Button-down Shirt|
4. Oxford Shirt
Everyone needs a piece of clothing that provides instant polish with virtually no effort, and if there was ever a magical item that could do that, it’d the collared white Oxford shirt. The tailored lines and structured fit ensure you’ll look your most put-together whether you’re heading to an interview or running errands.
ANDEE SAYS: You know, I always thought guys would go for sexy lingerie, skin tight jeans, etc. As I have gotten a little older I have learned that outside of the bedroom and night club, the biggest “office distraction” is the very business-like button-down. White, black, red … when I’m want some attention away from home, these never fail me.
5. Pencil Skirt
The ever-flattering pencil skirt is the female version of the power suit. It does wonders for highlighting curves and elongating your lower half for a timeless and chic silhouette and is a must-have for any working woman or about-town gal!
ANDEE SAYS: Only if you’re taller than 5’5” … I’m short and these skirts make me look even shorter. Even with the killer heels.
6. Trench Coat
There’s not outerwear that’s better at highlighting a woman’s shape than the trench. It cinches and defines a waist, while the lapels and structured shoulders highlight a hourglass figure. Not only flattering, a trench can be worn from the first nips of crisp fall weather all the way through spring thaw!
ANDEE SAYS: They’re also necessary for those office fantasies … you know, where you just slip on a pair of sexy black thigh highs, heels and head to your man’s office for some serious desk-sex. You might want to think about that guys, buy her a classic one and she might just ditch that old Dale Earnhardt NASCAR jacket. Well, unless that’s your idea of sexy.
A nice weekday off for me today, so here I am sitting in my bathrobe with a towel on my head, writing “y’all” about my chat this morning with an online friend. I know, hardly the glamorous look you had in mind. Such is the life of a closet porn star, according to my husband!
Anyway, my ever-inquisitive friend and I were discussing a recent survey that suggested the car is North American’s second favourite place to have sex – with the bedroom as No. 1. I think this includes the steamy-windows, back row at the drive-in movies and the secluded “Inspiration Point”, but he was suggesting it may also include sex while the car was in motion.
So, it came to be (I know, bad pun) had I ever had sex while driving?
I can say, not the whole act … and I was not the driver.
I had read somewhere about this girl who gave her boyfriend a blowjob while they were driving somewhere, so I decided to give it a try. The idea of it was extremely erotic, and I like to explore when the mood hits. So, there we were, driving along a back road and I began to tease him, then unzipped his jeans to begin the fun. To be honest, it’s a very awkward position … even without the seat belt. Safety first, you know! 😉
And although we did have quite a bit of fun with it at the time, it’s definitely not a regular occasion for us…not yet anyway.
That said, a much better experience for me is when I drive him crazy by playing with myself until I cum while he is driving. It’s something that I have done on a number of occasions. The first time I did that was long before we were married. We were coming home from an office dinner party and I was wearing this cute little dress, so it was pretty easy access. I had been drinking a fair bit, so I was feeling pretty adventurous and damn horny. Earlier in the evening my guy had dared me to go to the bathroom and slip off my panties. I did, and then slipped them into his jacket pocket while I whispered some dirty talk into his ear. They never made it back onto me and I managed to get him to agree to leave earlier than most everyone else. I had plans.
As we were driving home, he was joking about those guys who hang garters they get at weddings and such on the mirror, so he slipped my cute little white panties onto the rear view and away we went. He was teasing me with his hand as we drove along and in no time I was incredibly turned on, so after a bit more of this, I put my feet on the dashboard and went to work on my own.
We eventually had to stop the car for a little more activity though! It is equally difficult for the guy to keep up any kind of manual pleasure on a female passenger for a long time while he is trying to drive.
Thinking back on it now, I might just have to talk him into taking me for a little country drive this weekend!